Venting does help a lot! The costume is very cool!
That bit irked me a lot too - because it was kind of like she was saying to the girl that the incident was more her fault because ,i.she had been drinking, but less his fault if he had been drinking. I don't see the logic in that. It's double standards.
You're so right, there are lots of awful advice columns around, and lots of people who have these views on rape and instinctively blame the victim - not always maliciously, just because they haven't thought about the issue beyond the general attitudes society has taught them to have - but Amy Dickinson posted her "advice" in a public forum in a way that could have been very damaging to the girl who originally asked the question, so she pretty much brought all this negative attention on herself. She shouldn't have any excuses. Hopefully the girl read the responses to the post and hasn't taken the blame on herself. :-)
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Date: 2009-12-08 11:23 am (UTC)That bit irked me a lot too - because it was kind of like she was saying to the girl that the incident was more her fault because ,i.she had been drinking, but less his fault if he had been drinking. I don't see the logic in that. It's double standards.
You're so right, there are lots of awful advice columns around, and lots of people who have these views on rape and instinctively blame the victim - not always maliciously, just because they haven't thought about the issue beyond the general attitudes society has taught them to have - but Amy Dickinson posted her "advice" in a public forum in a way that could have been very damaging to the girl who originally asked the question, so she pretty much brought all this negative attention on herself. She shouldn't have any excuses. Hopefully the girl read the responses to the post and hasn't taken the blame on herself. :-)